The Purpose of Marriage

February 11, 2023


"God gave us the institution of marriage; ...because we need each other, as helpmates."


Barbara and Matt were popular, wealthy, and well-traveled. After they had been married for only one year, Matt was in a horrible car accident. At the hospital, they discovered that he was paralyzed from the neck down.

When the doctors told Barbara, she was devastated. When Matt regained consciousness and the doctors told him what had happened, he asked to see his wife.

He told her that he knew she didn't marry him in order to stay home and take care of a cripple, in order to spend her life celibate and childless. He told her that he knew she would be happier if she left him and found someone else. He told her he would understand.

Barbara went out of the hospital room, sat down, and cried.

A few minutes later, she came back in, knelt beside Matt's bed, took his hand, and through her tear-stained faced she said: "I will never, never, leave your side."

God gave us the institution of marriage; the lifelong union of one man and one woman. This union was necessary not only so that children may be raised and cared for by a father and a mother, but also because we need each other, as helpmates. It is part of God's design that we complete each other, draw strength from each other, and contribute to one another's spiritual growth.

But marriage is difficult. It is not easy for two people to live together, day in, day out, year after year, through good times and bad, living with each others faults and failings. It is not easy to help another person grow in holiness in spite of those flaws.

Holy Matrimony is a sacrament of the Church. As a sacrament it conveys God's grace to those who receive it. It is God's grace that strengthens our human weakness and allows us to overcome problems and respond to emergencies associated with marriage.

The unity of a sacramental marriage makes divorce impossible. The bond created by the sacrament is a bond of great power and mystery that no earthly authority may dissolve. It is an institution, founded by God, between a man and a woman, that binds the three of them together.

Divorce pretends to dissolve that bond. In a divorce each person is putting their own needs first. Divorce is a betrayal of that bond of love.

But the Church recognizes that we make mistakes and sometimes enter into marriage for the wrong reasons or with the wrong intentions. In this case the Church investigates the circumstances surrounding a marriage and may grant a decree of annulment. Annulment is a determination that the sacramental bond was never established in the first place.

The Church upholds the teachings of Christ even when those teachings are difficult for us to accept. The intent is not to be mean-spirited, the intent is to bring all people back to God by reminding us of what God wants from us. The intent of the teachings of the Church, is love.

Pax vobiscum
6th Sunday in Ordinary Time


Saint George © Lawrence Klimecki

Lawrence Klimecki, MSA, is a deacon in the Diocese of Sacramento. He is a public speaker, writer, and artist, reflecting on the intersection of art and faith and the spiritual “hero’s journey” that is part of every person’s life. He maintains a blog at and can be reached at

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